Posts Tagged ‘生活’
英语角——You’ve got to find what you love（你必须找到你所钟爱的）
英语角 July 11th, 2009
周末英语角，简单有意义的英语美文。
This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.
I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
成就一番伟业的唯一途径就是热爱自己的事业。如果你还没能找到让自己热爱的事业，继续寻找，不要放弃。跟随自己的心，总有一天你会找到的。 阅读 »
拒绝借口之拒绝依赖别人
个人提升 July 2nd, 2009
向借口开刀是决定你能否胜出一般人的标志，褪墨最新系列《拒绝借口》。
“依赖别人”是许多员工在工作中的一种“心理借口”，他们过于计较别人的赞同或反对，得到赞同，就产生工作的积极性；获得反对，就颓然不振。
我们奉劝你最好放弃和拒绝上面的这种借口。期待别人的承认、获得他们的赞同、乐于得到表扬，这本是人之常情。但如果你不能正确地看待别人的反对的话，在你通往成功的路上必须会布满障碍。
为了更好地在这个世界上前进而去寻求别人的赞同，是有益于健康并令人愉快的。不过，无论你做什么事情，你将随时随地都可能遭到反对，没有谁能总使周围的每一个人都感到满意。如果你不断地试图取悦于人，那么你将失去自己的个性；如果你过于依赖赞同，那么你也部分地将自己交付了给了那个期望得到他们赞同的人，让自己受到别人的支配；如果你把别人的意见或者信念看得比自己更重要，其结果也会同上述的一样。你让别人来支配你，使自己陷入了被动的境地。
按下列问题去检验自己，也许是一个好办法。你将认识到自己是否真正摆脱了对赞同的依赖，是否拒绝了这种依赖别人的借口。
- 你把自己的感情责任交付给别人吗？
- 你经常在不要求道歉的时候道歉吗？
- 你倾向于让别人显得比你自己更重要吗？
- 你允许别人贬低你和你的努力吗？
对上列问题进行思索后，请想想韦恩·戴尔博士针对那些为了寻求别人的赞同而神经过敏，并寻找借口、自拆台脚所说的话：“只要别人是认真负责的，而你自己又不可能改变性格，你就不必冒任何风险。因此，把寻求别人的赞同作为自己的一种生活方式，将有助于你在自己的一生中安安稳稳地避免任何冒险行动，强化你头脑中那种别人必须照料你的观念，从而使你回复到自己被人怀抱、保护和指使的孩提时代。”
假如你是一个对自己有责任心的员工，你不妨这样做：一旦你决心克服掉自拆台脚以寻求别人赞同的习惯，你就应当从一些简单的调整开始，逐步改变自己善于寻找借口的习惯。
- 写下白天里人是怎样经济使用“对不起”作为话语的开关。
- 写下白日里你是怎样经常地用“我对吗”或“你同意吗”作为谈话的结尾。
- 避免参考任何他人的意见来为自己辩护。
- 承认如下事实：你不可能在任何时候都使每一个人愉快，要学会在非难中生活。
- 学会依靠自己作出判断。例如在买衣物、选择家具的时候、或者在对一些重要问题作决定的时候。
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